To-do list vs To-be list

A to-be list sets goals around who you are becoming rather than what you get done: your character, presence and connection with Allah. It shifts you from measuring productivity to nurturing sincerity, kindness and intention.

For the first time ever, my wife set her 2026 goals before I did. This was a surprising turn of events, as I've always been the one initiating our goal-setting sessions.

What struck me most about her goals wasn't their timing but their essence. Unlike the traditional, outcome-driven goals we often set—focused on productivity or tangible results—hers were about being. Her goals centered on becoming a better person, nurturing her character, and living with intentionality, rather than chasing metrics or milestones.

It was inspiring.

A Shift in Perspective

In our fast-paced lives, it's easy to get consumed by the mindset of achievement. We're constantly measuring and quantifying—counting calories, steps, work hours, or tasks completed. While these measurements can be helpful, they often lead us to equate our worth with productivity.

But when you pause to reflect, you realize life isn't just about what we do—it's about who we are. Our character, intentions, and relationships hold far more weight than our to-do lists or accomplishments. As the Prophet ﷺ taught, deeds are judged by their intentions.

This year, inspired by my wife's approach, I've decided to take a step back from the relentless pursuit of outcomes and instead focus on the profound art of Being.

What Does It Mean to Be?

In the context of faith, Being isn't passive; it's deeply intentional. It's about becoming the person we aspire to be, guided by the best examples from our tradition and teachings.

It means:

• Being present in our moments of worship, family, and work.

• Reflecting on our character and striving for sincerity and kindness.

• Embracing life's trials and joys as opportunities to grow closer to Allah.

If we spend 2027 simply checking off tasks without savoring the moments, we risk overlooking the beauty and lessons Allah has woven into our daily experiences.

Embracing Presence and Reflection

This year, I aim to nurture Presence in my life—to be fully engaged and aware in the here and now. Through intentional reflection, I hope to better understand the trials I face, appreciate the blessings I've been given, and deepen my connection with Allah.

By focusing on Being, I want to ensure that my goals align not just with external achievements but with the internal growth of my soul and character.

This Week's Reminder: As you set your own goals for 2027, take a moment to reflect:

• Are your goals focused on outcomes, or do they nurture your character and faith?

• How can you shift from doing to being, savoring the moments and deepening your connection with Allah?

May 2027 be a year of growth in who we are and a journey of meaningful reflection and presence.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the difference between a to-do list and a to-be list?

A to-do list tracks tasks and outcomes. A to-be list focuses on who you are becoming, your character, presence and faith. Read how to set intentions that truly matter to begin.

Why do goals based on intention matter in Islam?

Because, as the Prophet ﷺ taught, deeds are rewarded according to intention. A to-be list keeps your goals rooted in sincerity rather than only productivity.

How do I write a to-be list?

List the qualities you want to grow, such as presence, patience and kindness, then note one daily practice for each. The Faith & Focus Daily Planner gives you space to track them.

Does being mean giving up productivity?

No. Measurements can still help, but they should not define your worth. Being means staying present and intentional in worship, family and work, as actor vs witness explores.

How can I be more present in daily life?

Follow the Prophet’s ﷺ example of remembering Allah in every moment. Our post on mindfulness of the Prophet shares simple steps to bring presence into each day.